It’s a new beginning once again. It’s the New Year. The beginning of the year is the best time to think about the future and what lies ahead. It’s also a time to think about making improvements and changes in your life. The most common method to make changes happen is through resolutions. This article will guide you through making resolutions for the year ahead.
Making resolutions is comprised of searching for possible resolutions, deciding on which to work on for the year, and setting them.
Searching for Resolutions
In this step, you need to come up with resolutions. In order to do that, look through yourself and your life. How is it? Does it need some changing or improvements? What do you have to do to make the life you’re living a much happier one? In which area do you need changes? What kind of changes can you make?
Look at all the possible areas in your life, from yourself to your surroundings. Make a list of probable changes and improvements you think your life can do right now, and then proceed to the next step.
What to Work On
Right about now, you have a list of items which have potential of becoming your resolutions for this year. What are you to do now? It’s time to decide which one you’re going to work on.
Yes, you can have several resolutions, but if your list is too long or has several items that are particularly difficult to attain, you might not be able to finish them all. Take note that resolutions usually mean you’re going to make a change with yourself or with your life, and the reality is, changes don’t happen overnight. They take time and for the change to become fully ingrained in your system, you also need to put in a lot of dedication. What I’m trying to say is, a year might not be enough to fulfill all of your resolutions especially if the changes you listed require so much of your time and energy. Hence, you need to choose only a few.
How do you choose which ones to set and how many is enough? Choose based on its value to you. Which one is more important to you personally? Which item do you think will make your life much happier? Which changes will make you become one step closer to your goals? Think about these questions and cross out those that you can live without for now. As for how many you should have, it really depends on the type of your resolutions, but a safe number would be about five. Remember though, that if your resolutions are high maintenance, then you should have at most three items, so that you can concentrate and not get spread too thin.
If you’ve chosen which changes you’d like to make, you can now set your resolutions for the year.
Setting Resolutions for the Year
Setting resolutions is not just about writing down your resolutions. You need to declare them as well. Declaring can be done by simply giving it a label such as “My Resolutions for the Year 2013”. In addition to giving it a proper heading, also announce it to your friends and family. If you’re too shy to share it with all your loved ones, pick a few special people and share it with them. These friends will then serve as your supervisors. They’ll check up on you once in a while, cheer you on, and even give you advice on how to achieve your goals. You could even set resolutions with them so that you’ll cross the finish line with a partner.
After setting your resolutions, you need to do a lot more: research, planning, and making an action plan. To get details about these other steps, you can check out this article.
The end of the year has come and it’s the holiday season. It’s time to put your feet up, get back all the energy you lost through the hours you’ve been putting at work, and spend time with your family. Now, while you enjoy the special moments this holiday season, take some quiet time away from the hustle and bustle of your family, and think about a few things before the year ends. What do you have to think about? These are basically the year now and the year ahead.
The Year Now
The first thing that you have to put your thinking cap on for is the year now. That is, 2012. Look through all the things you experienced this year. Recall from the New Year to now, the holidays. What experiences made you happy or sad? What events affected you? What changes did you accomplish? What made you want to make some changes in the first place? Who are the new people you met this year? Did you make new friends and acquaintances? What new things did you learn this year? Were you able to develop a new skill? If so, what are these? Write down all these details on a sheet of paper.
In recalling, you can do this by yourself or with a friend. If you do this with a friend, you get to have someone to recall memories with. In addition to that, you get to bond with this person. Doing this by yourself is also a good idea because you get to really reflect on your feelings for each experience. To make recalling easier, go through memories by month so that it’s organized. You also get to see the flow of events and this can help you recall as well.
After reminiscing and making a list of your memories, analyze and assess your year. Give it a rating. Was it a good year or a bad one? If so, can you do anything to make it better? Think about this because you’ll need it for when you think about the year ahead.
The Year Ahead
Next up is the year ahead. Think about what you want to do with the year 2013. Imagine what the next year will be like. Are you going to make changes? Are you going to pursue new goals?
To help you decide, use your assessment of the year 2012 and consequently come up with a plan for those targets you wish to retain. For planning and goal setting ideas, go to the Goal Setting Workshop for a complete guide on how to do these the easy way.
Now, why do you need to think of the future? This is so that you can plan ahead and give yourself direction. That means you’ll know what to do and what to aim for. Your energy and time will be used for a reason that resonates well with you. Additionally, planning ahead allows you to prepare yourself for possible problems, so you don’t get too shocked when something doesn’t go your way.
The holiday season is here again and I’m sure you’ve got your agenda ready, but are you certain you’re all set for the holidays? Take a look at the important things I’ve got on my list and look back at yours. See if you missed any and include them while you still can.
Put Your Feet Up
Putting your feet up means to rest and relax. Take some time to have quality R and R this holiday. It’s the end of the year and you’ve worked hard all year long, so now is your chance to take it easy.
In order to truly relax yourself, leave everything related to work in your workplace. Tell your colleagues not to contact you, unless it’s a real emergency. You could also opt to put your phone on radio silence, meaning you’ll turn it off all throughout the holiday or send all calls to voice mail. In addition to relieving yourself from work duties for a while, try not to stress over the holidays. Enjoy each moment and have fun. If your schedule and some activities are not met due to certain circumstances, let it pass. It’s the holidays. It’s a time for merriment and relaxation.
This is what the holidays are about, right? Giving, sharing, and spending time with your loved ones. Now, who do you give presents to? It’s entirely your choice, but I do encourage you to give to those who need it. Yes, I mean the less fortunate. You don’t need to give them material possessions, doing kind things for them during this time of the year can do so much for them. Letting them eat a hearty meal, giving them warm clothes, and providing shelter even just for one night are some of the things you can do to give presents to these people.
As for the people you love, aside from material gifts, you could consider doing something nice for them. Create something with what you have. Make a stuffed toy for your kids or write a letter for your life partner. These simple acts are excellent presents that just might give greater happiness to the person who’ll receive it compared to an item you’ll have to buy at an expensive price.
Recall and Look Forward
As the year is about to end, now is the perfect time to recall the past. What happened this year? What did you do? What were you not able to accomplish? What events and experiences did you go through? What effect did these have on you? Recall. Reminisce. Remember both good and bad. Cherish the good memories and think about what you can do to avoid encountering the same bad experiences. Are there things you can change and steps you can take to prevent those bad experiences from happening again? If so, keep them in mind and look to your future.
Once you’re done reminiscing, you can proceed to planning for your future. What do you want to happen next year? What changes do you want to make? What goals do you want to set? Make a list of your targets. Then, using this list of targets and resolutions, formulate a plan. For a guide on planning, you can refer to this article.
Have you ever been rejected? Did it greatly affect you or was it just a passing moment? Perhaps you were greatly affected by rejections that were particularly important to you, and it was probably just nothing for those that weren’t significant. Since you’ve been rejected at least once in your life, what do you know about rejection? Take note of them and see if you’re list matches up with some of mine.
Will Happen Time And Again
Rejection is one of those things that you just can’t completely eliminate from your life. The reason is due to that fact that you can’t control rejection as the decision to reject lies in the other person involved, not you. Hence, even when you try so hard to make that decision positive, you will still get rejected if the person thinks otherwise. Additionally, rejection happens time and again because you will have several encounters wherein a decision should be made, and that will be done by someone else. Examples of these encounters where you could get rejected are job applications, business proposals, sponsorships, and relationships.
Comes With Pain
The fact is rejection will hurt somehow, especially if it’s supposed to be a potential start of an important chapter in your life. You will get hurt, feel pain, and even anger more so if you don’t understand why it turned out that way. However, these negative feelings will fade and can be extracted out of your system through healthy venting. That is, you express your frustration and sadness in a healthy manner. Examples of these would be sharing your experience and frustration with a friend or a professional in the field (such as counselors), engaging in sports that sweat you out (swimming, running, basketball, badminton, boxing), doing extreme activities that allow you to scream out your feelings like bungee jumping
Can Be More Positive Than Negative
The way you see it, rejection is a negative experience. We try to avoid it and we are even afraid of such an encounter, but really, it’s more positive than you think. Getting rejected is definitely a negative experience but what you can get out of it is where the positive is. There are so many things you can learn from it and so many things you can do because of it.
Let me give you a rundown of a few things that you can learn and what you can do due to rejection. You can learn: things about yourself that only other people can tell you, that you can’t have everything, that rejection can be painful, that you can get over rejection and the pain, and that rejection can be a sign for change or self development. Now what about things that you can do? There are basically two things you can do: to learn from this experience and to make a plan to improve or develop yourself. For more about learning from rejection and planning your next move, read this article: Reasons Why Rejection Is Not So Bad.
There you have it. Three itsy bitsy facts on rejection that will surely make you think twice about the experience.
So you’ve been rejected. What are you going to do now? Here are some steps that you can take in order to deal with this rejection. This applies for any kind of rejection, may it be career related, business related, or relationship related.
Since this is a self help article, you might think the first advice I’m going to give is to think positively, but no. First, you need to feel the negative emotion that comes along rejection. Are you angry, disappointed, sad, and frustrated? Let it out. Feel that emotion. Scream your lungs out. Cry if you feel that you need to. The reason why I want you to express what you feel and not suppress your emotion is because you need it. You have to accept that fact that rejection will hurt and the only way you can do so is to experience it.
However, you need to express your emotions in the healthiest way you know how. Don’t go smacking people in the face or destroying things out of anger. Let those out through sports, writing, or talking with a friend. Doing this will let you calm down at a faster rate and in a more efficient way.
Next, you need to recognize and accept the fact that you have been rejected. But you shouldn’t stop there. After acceptance, you need to look for the morale of the story. What can you learn from this experience of rejection? What was the reason behind the rejection? What can you do to lessen your chances of another rejection like this? If you there is a change that can be made, think of what you can do.
Then, write down this statement as your way of accepting the rejection: “I was rejected to (insert what you were trying to achieve) but it’s okay because I learned that (insert what you learned about yourself and about the situation).” For the last part, you can include the things that you need to improve on and what you’ll do to improve. For example, I learned that I didn’t have a particular skill that was needed for the job, so I will take lessons on this and that.
After completing the statement, make a concrete plan on the specifics of your new goals. Do some research to make it a more feasible plan and make sure you include an action element, so that the plan will move and the goals will be achieved.
Remember: Accepting the rejection and getting over it is not something that will happen at an instant. It can take some time to fully get over it without having any more feelings of regret and disappointment or hurt. Hence, be patient. Don’t rush into getting over your rejection. Allow time for acceptance to settle in. The changes you want to make at the last step will take some time to achieve as well, so don’t rush things. Take things one thing at a time and keep your goals in mind to stay on track.